Hey guys,
Feels like ages since the last time I post anything here. It's not that I forgot about this blog or that I refused to write anything. It is because I was too caught up with broadcasting and kinda put all my focus there. And also because I don't know what to write.
But now I'm back! Hopefully with more new posts and new content.
Anyway, I'm just going to jump into this topic.
So, as you guys see, the title is BROKEN PROMISES, so that's what I'll write about.
Just a little disclaimer, most of the things that I will write below are my opinion and some definition and quotes that I found online. This is not specify to certain people or certain occasion.
Hope you guys enjoy reading it! :)
What is a promise? - A promise is a commitment by someone to do or not do something. As a noun promise means a declaration assuring that one will or will not do something. As a verb it means to commit oneself by a promise to do or give.
And that's the formal definition.
For me personally, a promise is when someone said they want to do something that causes you to put your hopes on.
However, as I grew older, I feel like I put less and less hope on what people say. But sometimes you can't really help yourself from putting hopes on someone. I think it's pretty sad that we have to constantly telling ourselves to not take it serious when people say they want to do something, especially something for you or with you because they might not do it or in this topic, they might break it.
Here are some quotes I found:
- "Promises are worse than lies. Cause you make others hope, hope for something that you're not sure you can give."
- "Hope is a dangerous game."
When someone breaks a promise, what happens then?
I've discussed this with some of my friends and acquaintances. It's shocking and again, sad, to know that the common thing we do when someone breaks a promise they made to us is we just keep it to ourselves and move on. Like we swallow the pain, the frustration, the disappointment and just go on with our life though deep down we are still hurting.
Why? Why do we choose to do that? I have came across a few reasons and some of them are, we take it as not a big deal because the other person makes it not a big deal. We worried we're just being dramatic. We worried if we let that person know that we are disappointed, that person might get hurt and do something worse. We want to give that other person some more chances. We believed that the person will make it up because they care.
I hate to break it to you, but if that person breaks the promise on purpose, that means they never care in the first place. So stop trying to wait for them to make it up.
Some people said that I am being negative for thinking that way or for not putting hopes on people, but the truth is, I'm just tired of being disappointed.
- "You were disappointed because you were expecting, but we were expecting because they made a promise"
Or in my case sometimes because they gave me hope, they made me hope.
I think at some point or at certain times, we have to let that person knows that they broke a promise, that they disappointed us and it hurts us. However, be mature and rational when telling them, do not try to attack them, let us be the calm one. I have done that. And I can tell you, some of them might respond in a way you never thought of. I am not telling you this to scare you but simply to let you be prepare for the outcome. Some people you know as kind and sweet, might not be as they seem. I have people that told me to deal with it, be a man and move on, don't make a big deal of it, etc. And guys, those came out from the people who broke the promise. And it breaks my heart. But I don't regret doing what I did because at least I have told them how I feel and maybe, just maybe, they will not break their promise again.
- "Never promise more than you can perform."
- "Don't make so many promises when you can't even keep one."
"In a world where vows are worthless. Where making a pledge means nothing. Where promises are made to be broken, it would be nice to see words come back into power."
Let's do this, let's bring power back to words. Let's put value in our promises. Don't make promise if you feel like you can't keep them. And if someone breaks a promise and it hurts you, tell them, let them know.
So, that's all for this week. I will try to post as often as I could on every Wednesday...yes, I'm switching my posting schedule to Wednesday because I have too many things to do on Saturday with the broadcast and all 😁
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